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Changes occur at the edge, but not without you there. This is because you are the Change Agent.
For change to happen, you must find your way to the Edge. There is no escaping this.
What is the path to the Edge? Who do you need to be, to go to the Edge first and Hold Space there for others to join you?
Welcome to the Edge.
There Is An Edge?
EDGES
There is an Edge that exists between having so much to do, and there being actually nothing to do.
You have so many friends, but who actually really knows you?
So many things are so important, but who holds the values that make them important?
There is an Edge of reality, a place between Bullshit and Nothing, a place where you can sit and dangle your feet over sensing the void below you.
How often do you hang out there?
What actually drives you away from that special and precious Edge?
Why is it that whenever the Edge resolves itself in front of you – suddenly appearing out of the fog – you quickly dodge it, using anything and everything to move back away from the Edge?
Why is nothing scarier than this Edge?
What are the ways you distract yourself from the Edge?
How do you muffle the sense of crispness and brilliance that can occur at the Edge?
How do you convince yourself that the Edge does not exist?
How do you distract yourself into thinking the Edge is so far away that it cannot possibly matter to you, when actually it is present in your very next breath?
The reason we ask these questions is that when a new Possibility arrives, or an old Possibility vanishes, this can generate a bright enough illumination that the Edge becomes visible.
The newly visible Edge is a Flux Point where you choose either to continue doing the same old thing, or you choose to try something completely different from what is happening right now.
If the Edge is too scary for you to experience, suppressing your fear does not make the Edge go away. But it could make the Possibility go away.
To test your Edginess Affinity Factor, we invite you to visit spaceport.mystrikingly.com and slowly scroll through the invitation to explore that each website represents. Each website is an Edge from where you are now to something else entirely. The test works by experimentally Noticing what comes up in you as you read each invitation.
Can you sense the Edge in each offer?
Can you Self Observe your visceral or emotive or intellectual reaction to the Edge?
Is your reaction to move towards that Edge, or to retreat away from that Edge?
Neither response, of course, is right or wrong, good or bad.
However, noticing your Edginess Affinity responses can be very useful for managing Possibility in this particular area!
One Experiment is to move towards - rather than away from - an Edge for which your Edginess Affinity has the most resistance... Then see what you find there.
Which Edge?
5-BODY EDGES
Edges can be physical, intellectual, emotional, energetic and archetypal.
There are new concepts, intellectual distinctions and words that your mind does not comprehend yet. Intellectual edges have to do with new concepts, distinctions, assumptions and stories that are outside of your current understanding.
Physical edges.
Emotional edges have to do with feelings and emotions. Being at the edge of your emotional territory might be, for example, experiencing and expressing feelings in front of somebody. Another emotional edge might be to let your heart speak to your partner and experience your heart get bigger consequently.
Energetic edges have to do with energetic spaces and the purpose of thoughts, words and actions. Getting to an energetic edge can happen by asking an authentic question you’ve never asked before and really wanting an answer, like “what is really the point of life?” or “what do I really want?” or “why do I keep repeating the same patterns?”
Archetypal edges have to do with your identity as a space through which archetypal forces and characters can come through you. An archetypal edge is speaking as the representative of Love in the world, or for the future of next-generations, or taking a stand for the stand that you take.
MODERN CULTURE'S EDGES
What? Modern culture has an edge?
Yes!
The gameworld of modern culture, its constructs, its rules of engagement, its beliefs have an edge. They are not omnipresent and omnipotent because they are, as any gameworld, only a game, only one possible interpretation of the world. It is dangerous and shocking to say such things. It might very may well be considered heretical in the eyes of the believer of modern culture.
Modern culture does not consider itself as one of the cultures. No, the others, out there, those who live in the forest and drink from the rivers, those are the cultures. Modern culture is the ultimate civilisation that other culture should aim at becoming. Only in its own eyes, modernisation is the best thing that human beings have ever invented and the logical evolution of any culture. Suggesting that modern culture is just one of the cultures and therefore is not omnipotent will make you look crazy in the eyes of most.
The one who reach the edge of modern culture and stayed there are Edgeworkers. Edgeworkers breathing, living and working at the edge of modern culture, one step inside of modern culture and one step out.
THE EDGE OF YOURSELF
What?! I have an edge too?
Yes.
“To succeed, planning alone is insufficient.
One must improvise as well."
Isaac Asimov
Fear of The Edge?
FEAR OF THE MARSHMALLOW ZONE
Before encountering the possibility of authentic adulthood and archetypal initiatory processes, you live in the comfortable space of the ‘marshmallow zone’. A smooth, warm, cosy, safe space where things are predictable and in our control. You tell ourselves “I go to school, I have good grades, I will have a good job, I will find somebody who loves me, we will have beautiful children, who will also go to school and have good grades and have a good job when they grow up. We will have a beautiful house and money to go on vacations. I have it all planned out.” The marshmallow zone has the ability to make us believe that life can be secure, predictable, controllable and safe.
The marshmallow zone is protection against life’s greatest paradox: death. The marshmallow zone gives us the illusion that death does not exist, or at least “does not apply to me.” Life in the marshmallow zone is a life in a cage that we barbed wire with our own fear. Incapable of approaching the door to freedom without feeling terrified, you run around in circles convincing ourselves that this (whatever this is) is the best way to live. Edges are constant reminders that the possibility of death surrounds us at any instant. Therefore, we avoid edges like the plague because why? Because what is the experience of approaching an edge? Fear.
Think of the experience of walking on the edge of a mountain, on one side is a steep mountain wall, on the other the infinite descent to the valley. Your heart is beating, your hands are sweating, your attention focuses on where you are putting your feet. This is the common experience of walking on a physical edge. The experience of finding and walking an intellectual, emotional or energetic edge elicits similar emotions to walking a physical edge. It is the feeling of fear, a natural response from our system warning us about the danger of falling off the deep end and dying.
Do you remember the last time you reached an Edge?
- Perhaps you accidentally found yourself in a homosexual apparatus shop (intellectual and energetic edge).
- Or your boss asked you to give a speech to the Board of Directors (intellectual edge).
- Or your partner accused you of having an affair (emotional and energetic edge).
- Or an ill friend asked you to accompany her as she approached death (emotional and energetic edge).
- Or you turned a corner and were suddenly face to face with a rough looking gang of teenagers (emotional edge).
- Or you clicked on the wrong icon and found yourself in a triple-X sex website (intellectual and energetic edge).
- Or you got a tax bill from the government for several zeros more than the balance of your bank account (intellectual and emotional edge).
- Or you got a flat tire in a ghetto neighborhood alone at night (emotional and energetic edge).
- Or someone misinterpreted what you said, considering it to be seriously flirting (intellectual and energetic edge).
- Or you thought your lottery ticket contained winning numbers (intellectual and energetic edge).
- Or someone at the train station tried to sell you heroin (energetic edge).
- Or you travelled to a foreign countries where they speak a different language and maintain a difficulture culture than your own (intellectual and energetic edge).
FEAR OF BEING 'OUT THERE'
Out 'there' beyond the edge of your 'Marshmallow Zone' is the scary unknown. Finding yourself at the Edge is risky! Control slips through your fingers. Mysterious and unending nameless dangers await you.
Long ago, perhaps out of your awareness, you decided that the best place to be was far away from those scary Edges, in the safety of your Marshmallow Zone.
After all, could modern culture be wrong? What has modern culture taught you about feeling fear? It is okay to feel fear? Are leaders allowed to feel fear?
You have been hammered from an early age to believe that feeling fear is bad. In kindergarten, other kids might have made fun of you “Ha ha he is afraid, he is a pussy!”
Your own parents might have punished you or rejected you for feeling fear. Perhaps they told you, “There is nothing to be afraid of.” What a lie that is.
Advertisements promote hip sports as: 'not for the faint hearted'.
In modern culture, it is clearly not allowed to feel fear, short of being publicly ridiculed with contemptful insults.
So what do you usually do when you feel fear? Perhaps you put as much distance as fast as possible between you and the scary thing. You jump like a cat in water straight back into your dry Marshmallow Zone.
Isn't it crazy that you by remaining in denial about feeling fear you cannot even question it as one of the reasons for your days are so lifeless?
If you are honest, you must admit that the Marshmallow Zone is restrictive, boring, frustrating, and in some ways dead.
The Marshmallow Zone represents the insane paradox of choosing to play dead because of your fear of death!
You might think of yourself as clever, thinking that you have outsmarted death. But at what cost? Unless you are aware that at some point all life inevitably comes to an end, you are not really living.
Life thrives at the Edge where the old dies and the new is born, the intersection between what is and what could be. In other words, life thrives at the Edge because it is at the Edge that evolution happens.
An Edge is a Doorway, a Possibility to look in two directions at the same time.
Look ‘in’, and see the Construct, the Thoughtware, the Conclusion, the Storyworld you were just a moment ago walking in.
Look ‘out’ and notice the vast endless ocean of Possibilities.
Looking ‘in’ at modern-culture gameworlds has the immediate evolutionary effect that the certainty of the Linear Life Plan that you were standing on for your entire previous life dissolves, leaving nothing under your feet but the void of the unknown, overflowing with amazing new options to choose from, options that a moment before were not even on the menu.
Reports From The Edge
REPORT FROM A BRIDGE-HOUSE
October 2023
On Monday I opened up space during dinner with everyone about wanting to make new offers for authenticity. Eventually, I said, “I can feel how I am too afraid to give time in my life to loving others.” One of the men agreed with me and said that he felt angry about that. He said that he has always felt how I am too busy to love him. Whether it was his clarity, his resentments, or his Gremlin, I don’t know. But I stood there in my sadness and heard him say basically, “Not good enough.” It was not a problem to be with him. I let my head get chopped off and opened up to the possibility that it could actually be this awful. That even for a man who I treasure in my life, my ability to love could be this limited. I was sad and afraid that it could really be like this.
In that moment, my partner was hooked. Eventually, with spaceholding from the rest of the Bridge House, she was able to say to me, “It is so brutal to love you.” I told her how much I wanted and needed to hear what she had to say. She could not believe it. I think a lifetime of living with abusive partners and within the patriarchy made it nearly impossible for her to believe that someone would want to hear what her heart had to say.
A couple months ago, I pulled the rug out from our relationship completely by saying, “I don’t love you.” It was an attempt by me to authentically explain that I felt our ability to source Archetypal Love was limited and that I wanted something different. We navigated it and had a mini-Frying Pan between ourselves. In the next couple days after that, my ability to love her shifted completely. Suddenly, I had access to incredible amounts of space to love her, to really love her and let love in. That space has persisted and my love for her keeps growing.
The shock of this rug-pulling-out stayed with her. She started talking about how angry she was about me saying that I don't love her, and it took some work to let it be and not need to defend the nuance of that conversation or my purposes in saying it.
Eventually she shifted into stepping completely outside of the Patriarchal ways in which we have been relating. She stopped talking about this conversation from the past and started delivering that she was done with being in any sort of Patriarchy space with me. She said that getting glimpses of the man I could be, and then seeing me slide back into Patriarchy, was so painful that it hurt to try to love me and have it be so rare that I let it through. Her communication was very clear.
I sensed the agony of how hard it is for others to love me, a man who cannot let love in, who makes constant moves to limit the love available in the space. As a result of my painful new awarenesses, I could feel a more Archetypal channel opening up. She was standing outside the Patriarchy and making an opening for me to join her over there. I could feel how much I want to explore making that leap with her, how much my Being really wants that, and how little I know about getting there. The Archetypalness of what she proposed totally removed any need for me to defend myself.
I was liquid for a couple days after that, just to stand at the Edge and not know what to do to meet what this woman has proposed.
Experimenting At Your Edges
Having no plans requires a change of behaviors
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STAND UP AT THE EDGE
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You can do this experiment in a Possibility Team, at a café or alone. Stand up at the edge of your chair (make sure there is nothing edgy or sharp right in front of it). Lean forward, do not fall off the chair. Find this point of balance right at before you would fall. Stay there and start speaking. Let what you've never said before speak.
SPEAK FROM THE UNKNOWN
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EDGEWORK EXPERIMENT WITH SOMEONE ELSE
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Most new things are discovered at an Edge.
If you wait around for someone else to do the discovering, you may be waiting a very long time.
If you are an Edgeworker, you have work to do at the Edge that is no one else's work but yours.